LYL PODCAST EPISODE 076: Intimacy with Ease

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The topic of sexuality is so sensitive that conversing about it even with your partner seems like a terrifying thing to do. However, the more one remains resistant to opening up about the issues surrounding their sexuality, the more this endangers your relationship and intimacy with your partner.

There is a need to remove the stigma regarding conversations about sex and intimacy, and that’s what Jessa Zimmerman, a certified sex therapist and couples’ counselor helps us with as she deals with these issues regularly. She aims to help couples understand the underlying issues of their problematic sexual lives and activities.

In today’s podcast episode, we will be talking about how Jessa got interested in sex therapy and how the topic of sexuality is still a taboo even among couples in this day and age. We will also discuss what desire discrepancy is, addressing people with sexual trauma, what expectations, fantasies and extreme beliefs about sex does to a couple, why she believes that ‘nothing is broken’, and a lot more.

It is never wrong to know more and talk about sexuality. Listen to today’s podcast episode!


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Books mentioned in this episode:

•  Sex without Stress (Paid Link:

What’s discussed in this Episode

[2:24] How Jessa became a sex therapist 

[3:28] Divorce, existential crisis, and perimenopausal 

[6:23] Effects of grief and loss to one’s sex life 

[7:41] Difficulties in talking about sexuality 

[9:17] Addressing incorrect beliefs about sexuality 

[11:19] How to deal with people who have bouts of trauma and suffering 

[13:17] Dealing with people who have fixed mindsets 

[14:54] Common sexual issues for women in menopause 

[18:27] The tendency to overlook sexual dysfunction and pain 

[19:36] Sex therapy includes discovery and education about sexuality 

[21:50] How to address people with sexual trauma 

[23:41] Jessa’s take on orgasmic meditation 

[25:51] Views about aids to sexual pleasure 

[26:18] Preferences, desire discrepancy, and sexual mismatch 

[27:54] Communicating with the partner about sexual issues 

[29:07] The lack of proper medium for sex education 

[30:40] Detaching fantasies and goals from intimacy 

[32:24] Recovering from a rut 

 Nothing is broken 

About the Guest

Jessa Zimmerman is an author, podcast host, and a certified sex therapist and couples counselor. She helps couples who are avoiding sexual activities because of negativity, stress, disappointment, and pressure. Jessa also coaches couples to overcome such experiences to enjoy and maintain a healthy intimate and sexual relationship.

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I hope you enjoyed this podcast, and I hope you will take action to look and be your best self. Thanks for listening!

Dr. Michelle Gordon

Surgeon, TV Host, Author, Speaker.
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