I never thought of myself as an athlete.
And almost always I felt less than because I didn’t participate in organized sports when I was young.
Back in high school, I took this class called, “Reading, Writing, and Running.”
And even though I ran more than any other girl in the class, I still felt like I wasn’t good enough.
I always thought I sucked.
Fast forward to when I started running again in my 50s…
I couldn’t run for more than a minute at a time!
But I sucked at it until I was able to do one mile…
And now I’m running 5k races.
I like to say that anything worth doing is worth sucking at it first.
And the point I’m trying to make here is that you can do anything you put your mind to.
I talk more about that in today’s episode with Hailima Yates who is the CEO and founder of Luv Mrk, a coaching company where she works with clients that embrace positive self-identity, inclusive and equitable work environment.
Hailima then details how she struggled from negative self-image and low self-esteem which led her to substance abuse and suicidal ideation, and how she came out of that place to change her mindset, finally value herself, stop her self-sabotaging, and make choices where she now lives a life that she has chosen throughout her adulthood.
During the podcast we talk about self-esteem, social justice, and racism, PLUS:
• Looking in the mirror and changing your narrative
• Hailima’s suicide attempt and what led to it
• Her spiritual journey that helped change her thinking
• The importance of NOW
• Feeling the feelings
• How to be there for others who are hurting
Tune in to this episode today and find the inspiration you need to start seeing the best in you!
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Books and Documentaries mentioned in this episode:
• A Course In Miracles https://amzn.to/3rdaAWP
• The Buddha and the Badass https://amzn.to/36Ckqrx
• Dissolve The Problem: by Shifting Physical Reality https://amzn.to/3B5Xf75
• Dissolving the Anchor: Untethering Dysphoria and Self-Doubt to Create an Empowered Life https://amzn.to/3elMOTk
What’s Discussed in This Episode:
[5:25] Hailima shares what she does and how she got started
[8:48] Hailima’s take on those who deny racism exists in America
[10:13] Stories believed that becomes our reality
[12:32] Luv Mrk and what it is
[14:38] Hailima’s story about her refusal to look in the mirror
[18:30] Hailima shares about her suicide attempt
[21:53] To continue choosing tomorrow, we have to realize we have a purpose
[24:42] Hailima’s spiritual journey
[27:54] Be aware of what you focus on
[29:38] The question Dr. G asks herself in the morning
[31:29] Speak in the present tense
[33:06] How to end your pain and not your life
[34:39] How can people be there for other people
[37:34] Toxic positivity
[38:22] Mental, social, emotional wellness
About the Guest:
Hailima Yates is an author, CEO/Founder of Luv Mrk, a transformation speaker, and mindset Coach. She was born in Wichita, KS, grew up in Denver, CO, and spent another portion of her life traveling which helped to shape her into who she is today. Due to her mental and emotional journey along with other battles society and the world throws at us, she loves dedicating her time to provide sustainable methods that allow us to consciously treat ourselves and others in a loving manner. Hailima has over 20 years of experience participating in and providing various programs that guide us on how to be aware of past circumstances influencing our current choices, along with how to manage current adversities. The tools she provides through her programs helps us to know how to shift self-defeating, undervaluing, and limiting beliefs to build a healthier mindset and constructive habits to take control of our life and purposely create a happier lifestyle.