LYL PODCAST EPISODE 148: Solving The Problem of Emotional Triggers (The Best of The Menopause Movement Podcast Episode 16)

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Have you ever been triggered?

A few years ago, this term used to be new to me.

There were many instances where I was triggered and reacted inappropriately, because one of the ways that I managed my own trauma was not to trust anyone and to always push people away.

If I felt threatened at all I would lash out. This almost cost me my job when I was a resident, because I didn’t know how to interact with people.

Thankfully I got to a place where I had the luxury to do some introspection, where a lot of women may not have that because a lot of us are still in survival mode even into midlife.

This is why having a safety net relationship is important.

During midlife, we often rethink our relationships. This phase also calls for the rediscovery of self.

In today’s episode of The Best of The Menopause Movement Podcast, we have Deirdre Fay, a licensed clinical social worker, who is the author of Attachment-Based Yoga and Meditation For Trauma Recovery.

Tune in as we talk about valuable insights on how you can healthily deal with your triggers and get useful information on how to deal with self-discovery and relationships.


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Books mentioned in this episode:

Michael Singer’s The Untethered Soul (
Adyashanti’s Pure Meditation
David Richo’s How To Be An Adult In Relationships
Hal Elrod’s Miracle Morning

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What’s Discussed in This Episode:

(05:18) Definition of triggers
(06:57) Attachment theory
(07:40) Seven fundamental attachment needs
(09:53) Triggers as heavily-charged memories
(12:05) What are attachment imprints?
(13:23) What is representation?
(14:21) Changing attachment imprints
(17:45) Getting rid of triggers through spiritual practices
(22:02) Attachment styles
(26:41) Uses of meditation
(29:39) Importance of self-compassion
(31:08) How should you deal with negative thoughts?
(34:14) How should you deal with repressed memories?
(37:02) What is dissociation?
(39:27) Recognizing triggers
(42:14) Online course about living with triggers
(46:53) The need for constant improvement

About the Guest:

Deirdre Fay is a licensed clinical social worker and author of two books, while currently working on her third one. She lived in a yoga ashram for six and a half years learning meditation and body presence. She has spent 35 years working with individuals and groups helping them form solid, secure, and satisfying relationships with themselves and others.

Dr. Michelle Gordon

Surgeon, TV Host, Author, Speaker.
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